I wish I’d said “yes” more often…
I
wish I’d shared him more. I wish I’d claimed him – any time I could
have. Instead, when asked if I had
children I sometimes said “no.” Rather than have to explain...rather than break down in tears... I said no...
Why did I do that? Oh, it makes me so
disappointed and angry with myself!!! I
should have said “yes”, anytime I could have.
I should have said yes! Yes! YES!
My advice... don’t wait...
Don’t wait to see if the pain will fade
to share your story. Don’t wait until
you feel stronger, or more secure or settled, don’t wait until you think you can – share your story now!
Reach out and be
brave.
Yes, be brave. Again.
Say “yes” whenever a stranger asks of you
have children. Don’t’ keep your child a
secret, and don’t live in the dark. If
all you have to share is how old he is, share it. Embrace it. It is a part of who you are. And no matter what you may want to believe, it’s
a big part. Allow yourself to feel the
grief and pain of losing your child, and to let others see it. Don’t be afraid to own your story.
And, hopefully, at some point along the
way, you will also learn to celebrate what an amazing thing you’ve done. What a beautiful being you’ve brought into
this world. You will learn that you can
take ownership of your decision and accept it.
And realize that you can’t go back, but
you can move forward.
