tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610198818149389140.comments2021-04-01T10:50:30.337-08:00Lost AgainCandace Cahillhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09005487799203036345noreply@blogger.comBlogger49125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610198818149389140.post-13458047625194834402016-06-05T22:31:40.489-08:002016-06-05T22:31:40.489-08:00Our hearts open even wider with each loss.Our hearts open even wider with each loss.Ms. Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09803165193695081583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610198818149389140.post-68475951922513518362016-03-31T20:56:45.867-08:002016-03-31T20:56:45.867-08:00Beautiful blog and very sad. Im so sorry you have ...Beautiful blog and very sad. Im so sorry you have gone thru the trauma of losing him twice. Im also a birthmom, i've recently reunited and started building a relationship with my daughter. My biggest fear is losing her again. I can't imagine how hard this must be for you. Im glad you have access to some of his friends and family, i hope you have your own families support as well. Hugs from one birthmom to another. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06479048941761035454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610198818149389140.post-22405808566014045832016-03-03T14:59:14.247-09:002016-03-03T14:59:14.247-09:00Hugs my friend, we disrupted an adoption so I am v...Hugs my friend, we disrupted an adoption so I am very familiar with regret. Our situation may be different but so often my mind dwells on, "If only." Sandra Zimmermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00848022860630877810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610198818149389140.post-51401213957798382892016-01-15T05:54:02.191-09:002016-01-15T05:54:02.191-09:00Oof and my phone changed the spelling of your name...Oof and my phone changed the spelling of your name! I am sorry about that Candace! Erin (No Bohns About It)https://www.blogger.com/profile/04496750108127543293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610198818149389140.post-74110754475148541422016-01-15T05:52:59.976-09:002016-01-15T05:52:59.976-09:00Oh my gosh Candance, I read your story and just go...Oh my gosh Candance, I read your story and just got chills. It is so powerful and emotional. I really appreciate you sharing your journey with us. As an adoptive mom, it is so nice to be able to hear the perspective of a first mom. I look forward to reading more from you this year.Erin (No Bohns About It)https://www.blogger.com/profile/04496750108127543293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610198818149389140.post-541098315668244002016-01-14T06:16:30.745-09:002016-01-14T06:16:30.745-09:00Candace, thank you for sharing about you and linki...Candace, thank you for sharing about you and linking up. I hope that you continue to write and share, your viewpoint is needed in the adoption community. Joyful Journey Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18304499218682220929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610198818149389140.post-48813598954848481852015-12-17T08:27:45.795-09:002015-12-17T08:27:45.795-09:00Thank you so much Becky.Thank you so much Becky.Candace Cahillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09005487799203036345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610198818149389140.post-72163947576178358962015-12-16T22:15:32.025-09:002015-12-16T22:15:32.025-09:00I love how you are developing this relationship wi...I love how you are developing this relationship with your son. It is a beautiful thing and very wonderful to read about. I know that he would embrace you without hesitation or judgments. You are a beautiful woman with love in your heart for everyone you meet. I love watching how you love on people who are in your path. Continue growing in love with your son. He is with you in spirit, for always! beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08586449839478167142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610198818149389140.post-16889940692305508242015-05-28T08:19:50.728-08:002015-05-28T08:19:50.728-08:00Believe-you-me, girl, I seriously feel your pain.
...Believe-you-me, girl, I seriously feel your pain.<br />I lost a gorgeous, brilliant girl at 17.<br />But, yet, we must remember 3 things:<br />whatever You want, Jesus, is what I want...<br />-AND- we'll see them again in Seventh-Heaven...<br />-AND- our suffering brings us closer to God...<br /><br />High, girl!<br />Wouldn’tya love a forever,<br />an eternity of aplomBombs??<br />An extraordinary DHTML @ warp-speed<br />with no zooillogical-expiration-date?<br />With an IQ much higher than K2?<br />Here’s what the prolific GODy sed:<br /><br />“Faith, hope, and love,<br />the greatest of these is love - <br />jump into faith...<br />and you'll see with love”<br />Doesn’t matter if you don’t believe<br />(what I write);<br />God believes in you.<br />God. Blessa. Youse -Fr. Sarducci, ol SNL<br />Meet me Upstairs, girl, where the Son never goes down…-blessed holy socks, the non-perishable-zealothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00241446130197185049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610198818149389140.post-55762227916181387372015-03-25T09:31:05.763-08:002015-03-25T09:31:05.763-08:00Indeed, I agree! Indeed, I agree! Candace Cahillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09005487799203036345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610198818149389140.post-69128946818042908622015-03-24T16:04:49.816-08:002015-03-24T16:04:49.816-08:00The question is how we live with the dragons :-)The question is how we live with the dragons :-)Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610198818149389140.post-25750117347957747382015-03-12T19:43:43.068-08:002015-03-12T19:43:43.068-08:00I keep thinking she's joined them both now...I keep thinking she's joined them both now...Candace Cahillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09005487799203036345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610198818149389140.post-15247085937071907292015-03-10T16:11:04.379-08:002015-03-10T16:11:04.379-08:00I am so sorry that you lost your friend.
I unders...I am so sorry that you lost your friend.<br /><br />I understand that. You both carried the knowledge of your children for each other. With her death, she takes with her that knowledge.Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610198818149389140.post-72941087044463828142015-03-10T10:26:16.881-08:002015-03-10T10:26:16.881-08:00Thank you. Thank you. Candace Cahillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09005487799203036345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610198818149389140.post-82821409167248435782015-03-09T19:45:39.581-08:002015-03-09T19:45:39.581-08:00Thank you Becki!Thank you Becki!Candace Cahillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09005487799203036345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610198818149389140.post-62095355095161734692015-03-09T17:04:25.039-08:002015-03-09T17:04:25.039-08:00I'm so sorry for your loss.I'm so sorry for your loss. Journeywomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09654778922160201892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610198818149389140.post-59372036476269096812015-03-09T16:05:00.456-08:002015-03-09T16:05:00.456-08:00So sorry Candice, for yet another loss in your lif...So sorry Candice, for yet another loss in your life. I hope you find comfort in the friends that are still here among you and they help to fill the void left by those that have passed. Much love.....xoxoxoAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04514651187116447935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610198818149389140.post-20549096442705196952015-02-24T21:49:53.623-09:002015-02-24T21:49:53.623-09:00So beautiful, Candace. So true too. Makes me weepy...So beautiful, Candace. So true too. Makes me weepy because my children's birth-mothers are my heroes and I wish they could release the shame and secrecy they live in. I wish they could truly believe how courageous they are and what a gift they have been to me and to their children. Your words touched me deeply. I celebrate you and all birth-mothers. DanceLaughLuvhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05084605503705160235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610198818149389140.post-42313812656794658832015-02-22T09:26:57.820-09:002015-02-22T09:26:57.820-09:00Thanks Jackie. I even think, sometimes, my skills...Thanks Jackie. I even think, sometimes, my skills are improving in this area, which feels like a victory of sorts - I'll lake it!Candace Cahillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09005487799203036345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610198818149389140.post-67863583379088098922015-02-21T18:11:00.778-09:002015-02-21T18:11:00.778-09:00I believe that feeling is living. So glad you'...I believe that feeling is living. So glad you've made the conscious effort to feel it all - the good and the bad. So happy you have the tools now to help you cope. I forget the tools I have sometimes - like courage - but the more we use them, I think, the more apt we are to remember to reach in the toolbox for them. Keep feeling it all, Candace :)DanceLaughLuvhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05084605503705160235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610198818149389140.post-18312779741410772452015-02-05T12:08:58.082-09:002015-02-05T12:08:58.082-09:00Mine too. :)Mine too. :)DanceLaughLuvhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05084605503705160235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610198818149389140.post-68001534823121165812015-02-03T00:19:12.703-09:002015-02-03T00:19:12.703-09:00I love how freely and openly you express yourself....I love how freely and openly you express yourself. Reminds me of someone I know. ;) I've been on the edge many times over in my lifetime. And starting my blog and re-living my story has also made me aware of how strong and resilient I have always been and didn't even know it. I even blogged about it. Lol. I agree that losing my birth-mom a second time probably made my grief a little more tolerable. Then again, I never really had her...DanceLaughLuvhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05084605503705160235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610198818149389140.post-20605777036304636922015-02-01T07:59:34.856-09:002015-02-01T07:59:34.856-09:00Thank you for sharing, I love hearing your story. ...Thank you for sharing, I love hearing your story. The fact that ours seem to mirror each other's warms my heart.Candace Cahillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09005487799203036345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610198818149389140.post-74098723548335256642015-01-30T17:15:50.763-09:002015-01-30T17:15:50.763-09:00Wow. Beautiful. Reminds me a bit of my birth-mothe...Wow. Beautiful. Reminds me a bit of my birth-mother's husband. He had been her boyfriend in HS then went off to the Navy. While he was gone, she became pregnant with me. She sent him a Dear John letter and broke the news. While he was back visiting home from FL, he decided to call her, to see how she was. Even though she had cheated on him, he loved her. She happened to have just arrived home from the hospital, after giving birth to me. He went over to visit her, hold her, comfort her, wipe her tears. When his Navy term ended, he came home and married her. I am not his child, but he has welcomed me with open arms and has made me feel like he might as well be my birth-father. God bless your husband for his wide open heart and his ability to see past biology. DanceLaughLuvhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05084605503705160235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610198818149389140.post-43655670973880607832015-01-27T21:29:39.825-09:002015-01-27T21:29:39.825-09:00I appreciate the connection you've forged with...I appreciate the connection you've forged with your children's birth-mothers as well as your personal perspective as an adoptee. And I'm sorry you never had the chance to meet your birthmom. I am truly lucky for the time I had with my son... <br /><br />Thank you for being witness to my story.<br />CandaceCandace Cahillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09005487799203036345noreply@blogger.com